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From: kjm@brl-tgr.ARPA (Kelly J. Benjamin )
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Hollywood
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Date: Tue, 22-Jan-85 12:44:25 EST
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Posted: Tue Jan 22 12:44:25 1985
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(Posted for Marie Carey)

>> Is this healthy, even if the characterizations are "good"?  Have any of you
>> felt that you were being overly influenced by the media?  Is the media
>> effective in negatively reinforcing "bad" relationships?

>>			It's the damage that we do and never know,
>>			it's the words that we don't say that scare me so...

>>							Allyn Hardyck
>>							..!ucbvax!allynh
>>							allynh@ucbvax.ARPA

I am not sure this even applies, but here goes. My husband and I
watched on television the other night a special called "Threads".
It was a film depicting the events leading up to and until about
thirteen years after a nuclear exchange between the Soviets and
Great Britain. It was very graphic and my husband and I just sat
there and stared, horrified, at the television screen. When it 
was over, we sort of just sat there a minute not saying anything,
and then we discussed the film and how it made us feel afterwards.
To say that we were influenced by this media is an understatement,
*but* I don't think it was really a *negative* influence and I will 
explain why.

Since viewing that film, my husband and I are sort of taking each
day as if it could be our last. That may seem foolish, but it has
actually changed our relationship in a positive way. We now seem
to be more accutely aware of each other's presence and I can see
both of us rearranging our priorities a bit. At least, changing them
from how they stood before seeing that film. I think that we had
gotten to the point where our jobs and school were taking more 
importance in our lives than each other and that has changed now.

I do know that this change in our lives right now has been a direct
influence by this media (tv), but in our particular case, I don't think
it has "negatively reinforced a "bad relationship", on the contrary, it
has helped ours to be a much "better" relationship. 

M. Carey
...seismo!carey