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From: nemo@rochester.UUCP (Wolfe)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: rings
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Date: Wed, 23-Jan-85 11:30:39 EST
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Posted: Wed Jan 23 11:30:39 1985
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> Helen Anne said (re; rings) -
>>"Sometimes I just want to protect myself from pestering morons ...
>Completely understandable.
>>"Second, any man who *won't* talk to me because he thinks I'm married, 
>>engaged, or whatever isn't worth my time:  if he cannot see me as a friend, 
>> ..., I don't need him as a friend, either.
>>A real friend won't be put off by the probability that the relationship will
>>not go farther than "just" a friendship."
> Here I disagree. The wearing of rings can mean many things, but the meaning
> stated in the first paragraph is generally accepted by most men (morons and
> otherwise).
A ring means married, not combative or insular, at least to me.
> Even if my interest in purely platonic, I would think twice about initiating
> a conversation. After all, WHY are you wearing that ring?  You are making
> a public statement about your marital status. It didn't just come up in
> casual conversation. 
so?
> What this actually means in terms of our being friends is unknown. Perhaps,
> we could be great friends, go out to lunch occasionally, take in an art
> opening, or perhaps I'll say 'hi' and your husband will break my nose. All
> I know is that you have your defenses up; it gives me pause for thought.
> Summary: I suspect that wearing rings as a defense against unwanted atten-
> tion also serves to discourage many potential friends.
> 							- karl
Some of my favorite male friends have been husbands of women I met before
I knew the man.  I take a ring as an opportunity to make two friends...
Nemo