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From: chenr@tilt.FUN (Ray Chen)
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Subject: JS and the Right of Refusal
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Date: Thu, 31-Jan-85 04:01:18 EST
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To Jeff and the net (catchy, isn't it?):

I think that what we've seen over the past few weeks is people on the
net exercising their right to refusal.  That is, they've found themselves
in a situation where they're faced with the choice of changing the situation
(i.e. see less of JS's postings) or get angry and frustrated with him
because he (and circumstances) have put them into a situation they can't
stand.

People, it's OK to tell somebody, "I care, but I can't take it anymore."
if the alternative is a gradual hatred.  I think in this case, that it
may have been possible to handle it with a little less pain on both sides
but I think that that's partially due to the medium we're communicating over.
The net is nothing like being there.

Jeff, I hate to say this, but this is a risk you take when you start
making anybody your primary source of support, especially if it's a
collection of people with a variety of tolerance levels.  Also, keep in
mind that the stuff you're seeing probably represents the extremes of
the range of feelings on the matter.  I can't speak for the net, but I
can say that I, for one, care about you, but I think you've just about
worn out my patience.  One final thing.  NOBODY IS TO BLAME!!  I don't
blame you, myself, or anybody else.  That's just the way life and
people are.  As far as I'm concerned, there's no malice involved, just
the recognisance of a unpleasant situation.  I hope you can feel the
same way.  So, for now, it would be nice if you could (as you seem to
be doing) cut down on the postings.  Thank you.

Now, people, can we please drop the subject, get on with life, and let Jeff
heal and grow in peace?

	Ray Chen
	princeton!tilt!chenr