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From: malik@helos.DEC (Karl Malik ZK01-1/F22 1-1440)
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Subject: living together & marriage
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Date: Thu, 31-Jan-85 11:37:40 EST
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Gregbo says -

>Anyhow, I feel a real flame coming on, but I think I'll quit now.  But before
>I go let me say that no matter how much time you spend living together before
>you're married, unless you are really ready to *commit* yourself to the
>marriage, and to make it work, you could live together 500 years and your
>marriage still wouldn't work.
>
>Perhaps people who aren't ready to commit to marriage but enjoy living togeth-
>er should just live together.  Better not to marry at all than to marry and
>divorce, I think.  The number of divorces is just too high these days.
>

What makes you think living together is not a commitment?! To paraphrase
you, 'People who are not ready to commit to living together should not
live together'.

The assumption that living together is a carefree, unserious arrangement
is naive. Try it. Without serious work, it won't last 2 weeks.

The day to day realities of living together are indistinguishable from
marriage. 

If you believe that there are differences, please state what they are.
And WITHOUT using the word 'commitment', since the implication that
people living together are frivolous is insulting (and wrong).

						,km