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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: time alone
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Date: Tue, 29-Jan-85 11:45:43 EST
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> How does one handle the need for time alone when there is disagreement about
> how much time is needed?
> 
> For example:  If I need 0-3 hrs/week and my SO needs 10-15 hrs/week, is
> the solution to compromise, alternate, or pick one?

   I doubt if there is a cookbook recipe. The most important thing, which I've
seen mentioned on this net several times, is simple: COMMUNICATE. The absolute
worst thing that can happen is for you not to let your SO *know* that you need
more time alone, or that you think you're not seeing enough of each other.
Second, be understanding of your SO's needs. If s/he claims to need more time
alone, don't take that as a "rejection". You would both need to accept the
fact that your needs aren't exactly the same, and deal with it. As for how
to deal with it, I think any of the three you suggested would work fine, as
long as you and your SO were in alignment with it. (That doesn't mean you have
to *agree* with the final solution, just that you have to be willing to support
it anyway).

--Greg
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