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From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
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Subject: Re: Living in sin?  Why marriages fail.
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Date: Fri, 1-Feb-85 00:02:00 EST
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Posted: Fri Feb  1 00:02:00 1985
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> From: tracy@hcrvx1.UUCP (Tracy Tims)

> Is it important to stay committed in all circumstances?  I think not.
> Better divorce than resentment for life.  These are people who would
> always regret not taking their own direction in later years, if they
> stuck by the marriage.  It is possible to talk about "making the marriage
> work" as long as the problems are ones of adjustment.  If the problem
> is a fundamental misunderstanding of the people involved, trying to
> make the marriage work may be wrong and pointless.  Children, of course,
> complicate all of this.

In my original message, I said that I thought it was better not to marry than
to marry and to break up.  I still hold to that, but I admit there are excep-
tions.  (You should see my mailbox :-)  If (1) the marriage should have never
taken place, ie. one married the other for some sort of convenience reasons,
or (2) one of the parties makes it absolutely abominable for the other, then
I guess divorce is the only solution, IF some sort of counseling has been tried
and failed.

I guess I got a little carried away in my posting, but lately I've seen too
many marriages going (or gone) down the drain, and I'm appalled at the apathy
of the couples, as if they really didn't care what was happening to them.  It's
pretty depressing for a person who is unmarried and looking forward to having
a happy marriage one day to be exposed to this.

** sigh **
-- 
If you wanna ride, don't ride the white horse.

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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