Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site dartvax.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!sdcsvax!dcdwest!ittvax!decvax!dartvax!tdxsys From: tdxsys@dartvax.UUCP (TDX sys Mark Mullen) Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social,net.philosophy Subject: netfriends Serious or Fluff!? Message-ID: <2763@dartvax.UUCP> Date: Fri, 15-Feb-85 20:52:33 EST Article-I.D.: dartvax.2763 Posted: Fri Feb 15 20:52:33 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 17-Feb-85 06:25:19 EST Distribution: net Organization: Dartmouth College, Hanover, NH Lines: 82 Xref: watmath net.singles:5883 net.social:467 net.philosophy:1464 <<< squish >>> About three months ago I posted an article concerning the demolition of another of my relationships by another of my business ventures. Since, then I have had a great deal of time to think about everything that went down, and have decided that I was definately deserving. Not neccessarily deserving of all of the circumstances and minor plot threads, but I was a major contributor to the result. I have learned a great deal, and I hope I avoid making those same mistakes in the future. But, this isn't the issue. What has particularly intrigued me are two specific statements that I encountered in articles in net.singles. The first was a comment to js that said something to the effect that he should quit complaining to an `impersonal' net, and go out and meet some organic life-forms. The second is the subject of various articles, specificly the current discussion that seems to be trying to determine if net,singles could be considered some type of encounter group. Now, my interest is the juxtaposition of these two concepts. I propose that the net is an encounter group, as such it serves a valuable purpose, and that rather than discuss fragmenting js off net.singles, we discuss how to triple the user base and start *lots* of subgroups. Networks such as this provide a brand new form of communication, and will be a very prevalent form of communication in the next twenty years. First, I can empathize with jeff. I don't know his situation, but mine is so heavily scheduled and committed that I have little or no opportunity to go out and meet people. The people I work around are friendly enough, but there is no question that I am a hired gun, therefore a little frost always remains. Plus, at what my shop charges, they account for time down to the minute, and I can't really blame them. So that effectively rules out work. As far as the remainder of my time, I just finished implementing a subset of MACLISP from scratch and selling to both venture people and real users. So you can guess what happens to the rest of my time. I meet a lot of people, but most tend to turn into another blur on the canvas, ***EVEN IF I DIDN'T WANT THEM TO!*** My position is quite simple. I am about thirty pounds overweight, will always be built like a stovepipe, my only credit is supposed to be my face. It is a complete waste of my time to frequent bars, between my outward appearance and my complete disgust with the chaff that one has to run through in order to find anything. At work I am seen in a differant light, however I have been informed far and wide that going blank and walking off is not the way to convince people that you are a nice person. Plus I don't forget they pay for me to play for them, and for what they pay, they are entitled to a success or death scenario. I have offered myself only as an example, one that could possibly be more indicative of the whole user group. I am satisfied with where I'm at today, and I know I'll meet someone sometime. But in the interim it helps to have people to talk to. And *that* is the issue here. Because of my internal desires for self futhfilment, the structure of the system with which I must coexist, and all of the relationships between these two objects, I cannot easily meet other people via the older avenues, unless I'm willing to restructure all of my goals, and that is *unquestionable*! So, I read what people on the net have to say, and sometimes I say something myself. And by doing this, I get he opportunity to communicate with other people. And if this wasn't available to me, I probably would slack off, just to gain some personal time. But by doing that, I run the risk of failing, since he main differance between make and break is still Thomas Edison's famous formula. And I've never been touted as a good loser, although I have had a fair amount of practice. So brethren, what say you? Is the net just a hobby or is it something more? I think we are the original pioneers in a very important development in interpersonal relations. Very dissimilar from the old ways, but just as valuable. In closing, I would offer a short example. How many of you have asked a question on net.unix or net.unix.wizards about something horrible that happened to you. What did you *feel*, personally, when the response *** S'allright, did the same thing myself a while ago :-) just do . . . and it will be all better again! *** or a similar version arrived. Just another piece of documentation, right! mark @ ozone !decvax!dartvax!tdxsys POB 2545/Manassas VA/22110 *** The society which scorns excellence in plumbing because plumbing is a humble activity and tolerates shoddiness in philosophy because it is an exalted activity will have neither good plumbing nor good philosophy. Neither its pipes nor its theories will hold water.