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From: wolpert@hpisla.UUCP (David Wolpert)
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Subject: Re: Re: Living in sin?
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Date: Fri, 22-Feb-85 22:44:00 EST
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Living Together (LT) vs. Being Married (BM):

LT is not necessarily a step toward BM. Sometimes it works out
that way, just because LT is a *very* good way to really get
to know somebody. Sometimes people who live together do get
married, just as sometimes people who date each other get
married.

BM is not necessarily a stronger commitment than LT. It depends
on the circumstances. Some people might enter a LT arrangement
for simple financial reasons, or convenience (but I guess the
same could be said for BM). In other cases, people are LT
because of a commitment to each other, or to some common
ideal.

I have lived with other people, and I have lived alone. The
others came one-at-a-time, or in formal communal situations,
or in less structured :-) groups. I have been married. BM,
for me, did not last as long as my typical LT arrangement.
Right now I am living alone, because that's easier (but not
more fun).

Some of my best friends are LT :-). Some are married after
living with each other or with me or others.

David Wolpert
"Nothing lasts forever"
"Where do I find Nothing"