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From: carson@homxa.UUCP (P.CARSTENSEN)
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Subject: Re: The Ultimate Naming Convention Question
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Date: Thu, 21-Feb-85 17:56:26 EST
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How about "Mama, this is Esther. Unfortunately the other third of our
menage a trios couldn't make it out here..." (assuming that the
hypothetical (henceforth, abbrev. to hp.) husband of the hp.
happily-married woman is cognizant of the affair...)

Of course, this all depends on the health (wouldn't want 2 of the 4
hp. grandparents to keel over with heart attacks, ja?), humor, and
general tolerance of all the others attending the anniversary party.

Actually the rule I would use is: How much to say depends on how long
you expect this hp. affair to last...if it is going to be a permanent
part of your life, they're gonna have to come to terms with it
sometime.  If it is a short-term fling, then you have some pretty
interesting questions about why you want this person at a gathering
that is so family-defined.... (I know my parents would mostly worry
about me getting hurt in such a situation, tho my father would growl
initially...)
P.