Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP
Posting-Version: notesfiles
Path: utzoo!utcs!lsuc!pesnta!hplabs!hp-pcd!hpisla!wolpert
From: wolpert@hpisla.UUCP (wolpert)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Orphaned Response
Message-ID: <-675032805@hpisla.UUCP>
Date: Tue, 19-Feb-85 22:44:00 EST
Article-I.D.: hpisla.-675032805
Posted: Tue Feb 19 22:44:00 1985
Date-Received: Wed, 27-Feb-85 10:43:59 EST
References: <-20100@tekred.UUCP>
Organization: Hewlett-Packard - Loveland, CO
Lines: 28
Nf-ID: #R:tekred:-20100:hpisla:-675032805:37777777600:1090
Nf-From: hpisla!wolpert    Feb 22 19:44:00 1985

Living Together (LT) vs. Being Married (BM):

LT is not necessarily a step toward BM. Sometimes it works out
that way, just because LT is a *very* good way to really get
to know somebody. Sometimes people who live together do get
married, just as sometimes people who date each other get
married.

BM is not necessarily a stronger commitment than LT. It depends
on the circumstances. Some people might enter a LT arrangement
for simple financial reasons, or convenience (but I guess the
same could be said for BM). In other cases, people are LT
because of a commitment to each other, or to some common
ideal.

I have lived with other people, and I have lived alone. The
others came one-at-a-time, or in formal communal situations,
or in less structured :-) groups. I have been married. BM,
for me, did not last as long as my typical LT arrangement.
Right now I am living alone, because that's easier (but not
more fun).

Some of my best friends are LT :-). Some are married after
living with each other or with me or others.

David Wolpert
"Nothing lasts forever"
"Where do I find Nothing"