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From: js2j@mhuxt.UUCP (sonntag)
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Subject: Re: Asking For Dates
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Date: Wed, 27-Feb-85 15:17:52 EST
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Robin explains why (he or she, I don't know) dislikes the idea of
asking people if they'd like to go out sometime as opposed to asking
them about some specific time and activity:
> Polite people refrain
> from putting other people into the uncomfortable position of explicitly
> rejecting them.

     But even if you ask about a specific time and activity, they *still*
have to reject you if they don't want to go out, so either way, you've
put them in the position of rejecting you, just by asking them out.  How
impolite!  As far as the word 'explicitly' above, Robin seems to be
implying that other ways of rejecting someone are superior.  But what
other ways of rejecting someone are there?  Well, there's lying to them,
and then there's ... well, uh, ..., there's lying to them.  As I said
before, if someone thinks I'm impolite for not going out of my way to
preserve the option of lying for them, I'll not be too sorry at missing
my big chance to go out with them.
-- 
Jeff Sonntag
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     "What you mean *WE*, paleface?" - Tonto, at Little Big Horn.