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From: rogerh@arizona.UUCP (Roger Hayes)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: Living in sin? (actually, why divorce exists?)
Message-ID: <22030@arizona.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 24-Feb-85 00:55:08 EST
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Posted: Sun Feb 24 00:55:08 1985
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Reply-To: rogerh@arizona.UUCP (Roger Hayes)
Organization: Dept of CS, U of Arizona, Tucson
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Summary: 

In article <pucc-h.1761> abv@pucc-h (David Stevens) writes:
>... we opted for "...'til death do us part." Of course, "... 'til love
>has ended" is the reality of it all, as I find out now during our divorce...

I'd even go further.  I'd say that "love" is just an emotion; I've ridden 
out enough emotional storms to doubt the eternity of any emotion, positive
or negative.  But it is possible for two people to start out life together
in love and comitted to making it work, and for them to fail.

This is a bitter truth.

I don't know why it's so.  I still believe in marriage; I still wish mine
hadn't ended; but it did.  Facing up to that reality was not easy, and it
took quite a gradual time.  I think the reality was that living together
became just a hurt, just a reminder of the failure and lack of trust.  It's
time to get out when it hurts to go home.

I'm glad to hear gregbo's idealism rampant, though.  Hope springs eternal.

				Roger Hayes
				Tucson, AZ