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From: dana@gitpyr.UUCP (Dana Eckart)
Newsgroups: net.women
Subject: Re: Yet Another New Topic
Message-ID: <180@gitpyr.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 27-Feb-85 12:36:49 EST
Article-I.D.: gitpyr.180
Posted: Wed Feb 27 12:36:49 1985
Date-Received: Fri, 1-Mar-85 08:17:31 EST
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Reply-To: dana@gitpyr.UUCP (Dana Eckart)
Organization: Georgia Institute of Technology
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Summary: 

In article <4160002@csd2.UUCP> dimitrov@csd2.UUCP (Isaac Dimitrovsky)
writes:

>(For men) How often have you confirmed before having intercourse with a
>woman that some kind of birth control was being used (either by asking 
>the woman or by using a condom)?

I can honestly say that I have never even attempted intercourse
without first knowing what protection was being invoked (by either
myself or the woman).

I have always felt that causing a woman's pregnancy is as much a
concern for me as it is for her (after all, it would be "my" kid
too -- right? :-)).  With my first lover I almost always used a
condom, since then the woman has been the one which has used birth
control (although I realize the importance of both people being
concerned about the matter, it is not always the case that both
persons are equally prepared).

Perhaps one of the hardest things I have ever found myself doing
is asking a woman if she is using a contraceptive method (and if
so which one, since to me this is extremely important.  After all
by participating in intercourse I share equally in the
responsibility).  It's not at all easy!  And there have been
several times when intercourse was not performed due to a lack
of contraceptive method, however that doesn't mean that you still
can't have LOTS of FUN :--)!!!

I think this is a good topic and look forward to reading other
peoples reactions.

--Dana