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From: irish@ihuxb.UUCP (Laura Sheldon)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: adoption and bio parents search
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Date: Tue, 12-Mar-85 10:22:54 EST
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Posted: Tue Mar 12 10:22:54 1985
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[Shouldn't this be in net.social?  Something other than net.singles?]

> 
> 	QUESTION!
> 
> 	Why do adoptees look for their bio parents when they have
> perfectly good parents... you know, those who were there when needed?
> 
> 			Julie Hoff ihnp4!ihuxe!hoff

Yes, I have perfectly good parents.  Perfectly great parents,
actually.  They're the ones that provided me with a nice home
on Lake Huron, 8 years of music lessons and music camp, trips
to Florida every year, etc.  They're the ones I call long
distance twice a week, and drive several hundred miles at odd
times to see.

But they could not give me my genetic background.  The response
I get from most people is, "So, what?"

Sure, I'm curious about my natural parents.  I'm curious if
either one of them had musical abilities.  I'm curious if I
might have a child with blond hair.  I'd like to know if I
really am Irish.  How many people, when first studying genetics
in 9th grade biology, completed their assignment on their
family's genetic background by writing a big question mark
on the paper?

But I'd really like to know of any medical problems in my
background.  Breast cancer?  Heart problems?

I have hypoglycemia.  Is it inherited?  Will I have to cut sugar
out of my diet for the rest of my life?  Or will the problem
disappear after some given time of watching what and when I eat,
i.e. did I bring it on myself through poor diet?

I would like to find my natural parents.  Currently, I don't
have the financial resources to do that.  I'm also wrestling
with the problem of "Do my natural parents want to find me,
or would I be opening a can of worms if I found them?"

I'm afraid that, until the State of Michigan decides to open
sealed adoption records, a part of me will remain unknown.

Laura Sheldon
ihnp4!ihuxb!irish