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From: damon@nisysg.DEC
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Subject: re: on searching for adoptee's parents
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Date: Wed, 13-Mar-85 14:43:08 EST
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Posted: Wed Mar 13 14:43:08 1985
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>Newsgroups: net.singles
>Path: decwrl!decvax!bellcore!allegra!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!ihuxe!hoff
>Subject: Re: adoption and bio parents search
>Posted: Fri Mar  8 09:15:37 1985
>
>
>	QUESTION!
>
>	Why do adoptees look for their bio parents when they have
>perfectly good parents... you know, those who were there when needed?
>
	Being an adoptee myself,  there can be a few very important 
	reasons for digging up the past. BY THE WAY WHICH I'VE DONE.
	The first reason was to find out my physical heritage such as 
	nationality. Then do you realize how fustrating it is to 
	walk into a doctors office and have him ask you your families
	medical history, and tell him I don't know? MAKES ONE SOUND 
	STUPID, AND OUT OF PLACE.  Another reason is just to meat new-old
	people that played an important role in your life, and appreciate
	them for it.  AFTER ALL I WOULDN'T BE HERE IF IT WASN'T FOR THEM!!!!

	It's also more than likely a great relief to the bio mother that 
	her child is doing fine. And if not, there's another that might
	get through to him or her if there's some emotional or other healing
	that might be needed. THE CATERING TO MOTHERLY INSTINCT.

	Also there is, whether people face it or not, a greater identity
	crises of adoptees who don't know where they came from but 
	knowing that the people they grew up with aren't from the same 
	bloodline.   This sets up a normal natural barrier between the 
	adoptive parents and adoptee, that will nine times out of teen
	crumble once the adoptee figures out and comes to grip with 
	the circumstances of his - her adoption.

	A biblical principle :  YOU SHALL KNOW THE TRUTH, AND IT SHALL 
	SET YOU FREE.   Gives you a greater peace of mind, once U understand.
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	Ed