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From: fritzz@sdcc3.UUCP (fritzz)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: a dollars worth of change
Message-ID: <2758@sdcc3.UUCP>
Date: Wed, 13-Mar-85 15:31:45 EST
Article-I.D.: sdcc3.2758
Posted: Wed Mar 13 15:31:45 1985
Date-Received: Fri, 15-Mar-85 05:38:49 EST
Reply-To: fritzz@sdcc3.UUCP (fritzz)
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Keywords: girls,women,dates,people


	Why do I always assume that something will never come back once
it's gone away? We had this discussion on calling women "girls", "gals",
"young ladies" etc. all before. I decided to poll the net and see what
kind of responses I got (assuming of course that it would be nicest to
call people what they wanted to be called.) The result was unanimously
for using "woman" to describe the average female net reader. (There was
one individual who preferred to be called a girl herself, but felt that
in general one should refer to "women") So, you can bicker all you want
about why you think you can call people what you want to, and I won't
care, but if you don't want to be a social retard i would recommend that
you treat people as they wish to be treated.
(If you don't, I don't care. My dad is a prime example of someone that
doesn't care. He forever is refering to women as "gals", but gets
horribly upset if anyone ever refers to him as as "guy". Wierd.)
(Oh yeah, I wouldn't recommend using "gal". It got more no votes than
"girl")

Now to get to more sensible things. Asking people out for dates,
establishing relationships, and generally getting along is a complex
business. It can't be reduced to a formula in the form of a C program
(although i did find it quite cute, and not without its good points.)
But anytime you deal with people you need to remember that they ARE
people, and that they have the same kind of emotions  and worries
that you do. Establishing a relationship (which is the desired end
result of most dating) is a vary intricate dance, with sometimes one
partener leading, sometimes the other. Try to imagine yourself in the
other persons place, and maybe their reactions will tell you a lot more
han their words do. It's not easy, but nobody ever promised you a rose
garden. I also think it helps to realize that the other person is just
as aware of the possibilities of getting (hurt|embarrassed|heartbroken)
as you are, and it's no easier for them than it is for you. It's
something that the two of you are doing together, so try to do it as a
team instead of as opponents. 
Now that I'm done telling you something you probably didn't really want
to hear anyway, I'll wish every one a nice day.



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