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From: jason%ucbopal.CC%Berkeley@decwrl.UUCP ( Jason Venner )
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Subject: Re: Multiple relationships.
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- - - mod.singles- - -          - - - Volume 1, Issue 33 - - -

My experience has taught that:

Each of the people involved need to be basically self sufficient
as far as emotional support.  If this is not the case,  time/support demands
by the people who are not sufficient tend to unbalance the relationships,
as well as put a damper on the honesty.

The honesty gets damped by two things.  The person in need of support
is (so it seems to me) afraid that the support will be withdrawn,  so
will try to seem 'perfect' to the others.
The others,  will (again,  so it seems to me) take the easy way out,  and
ignore problems.  This is the easy way out,  because you avoid (short term) pain
in a person you care for by turning a blind eye to the above problems.
	Jason Venner
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