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From: ray@utcsri.UUCP (Raymond Allen)
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Subject: Re: feelin' no pain?
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Date: Mon, 18-Mar-85 11:14:54 EST
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> Everyone of us has parts of our personality that we've denied 
> because somewhere along the way, it didn't seem in our best interest
> to express them.  Re-integrating those parts is a painful experience,
> and being in the middle of a massive reintegration process right now,
> I fully understand why people choose to stay in the safety of numbness.
> 

I understand that too but experience has always taught me that you end
up suffering more in the long run.

> G*d, it's hard pretending to be a normal, well-adjusted human being
> when all I feel is the pain inside.  Obviously, there was pain 
> involved with the way I was operating in my life before, or I would
> not have chosen to change it, and it was a familiar pain.  It was
> comfortable like an old fuzzy robe.  I could depend on it; I knew
> what it felt like;  I understand the cycle of that pain.
> All I know about the new pain is that I feel like I've jumped off
> a cliff and I'm in free-fall (and those fish in the water down 
> there:  are they sharks or dolphins?  I can't see from here.)
> 
> I sure wish they'd invent an easier way :-)
> 

One thing I've come to realize is that only *you* can cause yourself
to feel pain.  The amount of pain you endure is, of course, related
to your self-image.  The road to a happier, successful life really
begins by understanding yourself and accepting the responsibility for
the emotions you experience.

> Moira Mallison
> ucbvax!ucbernie!mallison		(this is where I really am)
>      --- or ---	
> tektronix!moiram			(this works too)
> 
> "Life is hard; then you die"

				Ray Allen
				utcsri!ray

"Haven't I met you somewhere before?"  :-) (-: