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From: hayden@pyrite.DEC
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Subject: Re: Dates not eating their food
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Date: Thu, 21-Mar-85 10:18:52 EST
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I was never aware that when I went out to dinner with a date I was
being judged on which meal I selected or how much I ate. My
philosophy is that if the other person has not made it very clear
that he intends to treat, I assume we are going dutch. Unless the
restaurant is above my means (in which case I suggest a cheaper
one) I go, order exactly what I want, eat exactly how much I
want to, and then pull out my wallet when the bill comes to pay
for my meal. In most cases the man is surprised because all along
he was assuming that I was expecting him to treat, and perhaps,
from the discussions I read here, he was scrutinizing what I
selected and how much I ate of it.

If a man does make it clear that he wants to treat, I assume
that the restaurant is within his means, and I order exactly what
I want and eat exactly as much as I want to. When I am treating
I expect him to do exactly the same. I don't judge my dates
on the price of their meals or on their appetites.

Seems to me, that some netters have a problem with
some of these basic issues. If the problem is with money, I
would suggest that if you are treating you go to a restaurant
within your means - one at which your date could select the
meal of her or his own choice without it being a problem. If
treating is a problem for you, suggest going dutch before the
date. If how much someone else eats is a problem for you, I
quite frankly don't understand why. I don't care how much
someone else eats unless he eats my meal!