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From: sunny@sun.uucp (Ms. Sunny Kirsten)
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Subject: RE: Re: left thumbs and sex
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Date: Fri, 22-Mar-85 03:47:51 EST
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> Love is not a need.  Love is a gift.  Sex without Love is nothing.
> A man and a woman may share sex and have nothing.  When they share love,
> they have it all.  When they share that love with the world,
> they are something.
> -- 
> {ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny (Ms. Sunny Kirsten)

UPDATE: due to private mail

Love is an action not an object.  Therefore it can only be given or
received, but to need it, is to express a dependency.  It is human to
need love, but one can be addicted to the fullfillment of one's
dependency needs to an extent which is unhealthy.  This relates to the
recent discussion on dependency / independence in relationships.  We
all need both... the freedom to be independent, and the security of
knowing we're loved by others to assuage the terrible loneliness we all
experience... for we enter and leave the world alone, and only by self
delusion are we not alone.  We may make commitments to each other to be
with each other, so that we are each mutually relieved of our
aloneness, but we still have to die alone.  Thus we may see the receipt
of love as a cure-all, when we're really misusing the word love to mean
that we want our dependency needs met (receipt of fullfillment of
dependency).  Is that obscure enough?  Simply, love is caring.

Now, for a wholly different viewpoint, the interrelationship of love
and sex.  These relate to the distribution of the body's energy amongst
the 7 chakras.  It is typical of most to live with a concentration of
energy in the root and kundalini chakras, and particularly of males,
with energy in the power chakra.  This configuration tends to enhance
sexuality.  Love on the other hand, lives in the heart chakra, which
for most is usually fairly shut down and protected.  After all, you
can't spend your work day running around the office giving a nice
bear-hug to every employee, and still get your programming done.  When
it comes to learning to balance or direct the energy into the chakras,
it is easy to direct one on, the other off, or vice versa.  It takes
more control to be able to achieve a specific blance, say between love
and sex, between the heart and kundalini chakras.  Simply, love is
heart chakra energy.

It is said that the ideal balance of energy in the body is;
for these chakras to be energized this percentage:
7th Crown	100%
6th Third Eye	100%
5th oops-name?	100%
4th Heart	100%
3rd Power	 40%
2nd Kundalini	 20%
1st Root	 10%
-- 
{ucbvax,decvax,ihnp4}!sun!sunny (Ms. Sunny Kirsten)