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From: rick@uwmacc.UUCP (the absurdist)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: paying for meals
Message-ID: <817@uwmacc.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 21-Mar-85 21:34:46 EST
Article-I.D.: uwmacc.817
Posted: Thu Mar 21 21:34:46 1985
Date-Received: Sun, 24-Mar-85 06:44:35 EST
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Reply-To: rick@uwmacc.UUCP (Rick Keir)
Organization: UWisconsin-Madison Academic Comp Center
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Summary: 

>...  Paying for meals (consistantly) is a way
>of obtaining power over another person.

	I am currently in such a situation with my own 
her parttime work while a student just doesn't make, financially.  I 
know this from my own recent experience.  An accountant might view the
balance of payments between us as indicating that I pay for more
than "my share."  I don't view things that way, because "my share" 
comes to more than the cost of a single meal, or even than the sum
of all the material things throughout a relationship.  For years, as
a student I have had friends who never counted how many pitchers
everyone bought, who gave more parties or dinners, who got presents
and didn't give them....you get the picture.  We knew that cash was
a poor measure of feeling.  Now I am in the position of being able
to spend money more freely on others -- surely it is a moral 
obligation for all the hospitality I have received to try and pass
this on to someone else.
	Lisa is right in making a habit of paying more often than her
friends who can't afford it right now.
-- 
"Alan Turing thought about criteria to settle the question of whether
machines can think, a question of which we now know that it is about
as relevant as the question of whether submarines can swim."
					-- Edgser Dijkstra

Rick Keir -- MicroComputer Information Center, MACC
1210 West Dayton St/U Wisconsin Madison/Mad WI 53706
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