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From: fbr@utastro.UUCP (Frank Ray)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: boyfriends
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Date: Tue, 2-Apr-85 18:09:01 EST
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Posted: Tue Apr  2 18:09:01 1985
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A lovely woman I know, no longer young, was describing a relationship
of hers some twenty years ago, in New York City, in which she and several
young women like her were (unfairly) employed in the publishing business.
All of these women had men in their lives.  The men were searching, for
the most part, for artistic expression of one sort or another.  One of
them wound up in a series of feature "B" movies, but the others never
made it very big at all.

Since none of these guys worked, it was a struggle to come up with the
$200/month rent on their loft, shared by four.  My woman friend refers
to this group as not only "boyfriends" but "deadbeat boyfriends".  All 
of the young women shared the same misery, but, it should be pointed out,
the same anticipation of success, of excitement, the same youthful
insouciance that is usually a direct match for high risk.

In retrospect, I think even the guys would laugh at being referred to
as "deadbeat boyfriends".  The point is, they had fun, they acted,
they dreamed, they created, they were in love, and they cared for
each other.

A woman went after me at a party the other night in such a profoundly
sincere way that I was unable to reply to her questions.  But I was
totally flattered by such interest.  It was nice.

It's not the words that matter, but rather, the feelings, the sincerity,
the chemistry between people.

fbr@utastro