Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP
Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site reed.UUCP
Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!burl!ulysses!mhuxr!ihnp4!houxm!vax135!cornell!uw-beaver!tektronix!reed!ellen
From: ellen@reed.UUCP (Ellen)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Subject: Re: boyfriends
Message-ID: <1246@reed.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 4-Apr-85 02:08:43 EST
Article-I.D.: reed.1246
Posted: Thu Apr  4 02:08:43 1985
Date-Received: Sat, 6-Apr-85 01:38:30 EST
References: <1186@houxm.UUCP>
Organization: Reed College, Portland, Oregon
Lines: 40
Xref: watmath net.singles:6545 net.women:4723

> Do you have a boyfriend?
> Do you feel like you must have a boyfriend?
> Did you ever say you had a boyfriend when you didn't?  Why?  Did you want others
> to think you had one?
> Do you find it difficult to meet nice guys? (apply your own definitions of nice)
> Greg Skinner (gregbo)

No, no, yes (to get an obnoxious guy at a bus stop to stop
hassling me), and no...unless your definition of "nice" equals
my definition of "nice to point of warranting intimate
relationship," in which case the answer is yes.

I have a small but constant group of male friends, none of whom
save two are what I consider really super special men, and they
are both attached to motos.  Actually, as I become more and more
feminist, I become freed from the feeling that I "have" to have
a boyfriend to be normal.  I wonder whether I'll ever meet a man
who is as sensitive to feminist/minority issues as I require;
it becomes very difficult for me to relate to most men, as their
values are so different from mine.  I don't worry about it
though.  If I can't love men, I'll love women.  

Incidentally, now that I am more trained as a fighter, I would
change that one "yes" to a "no."  There are more direct ways to
end harassment than evasive references to mythical boyfriends.

I think men are terrific friends.  They enjoy being treated as
"one of the girls" because they always wanted to know what women
talked about among themselves anyway.  I am glad I have male
friends, but the longer I'm single, the less I want to change.
Male lovers tend to be very possessive and trying.  I spend most
of my time explaining why I look at things differently.  I don't
have that problem with my women friends.  So much less time
wasted in translation!

I suppose this will probably end up on the far left side of
Greg's spectrum.  Oh well...seems normal enough to me :->

Grin and ignore it.
Ellen