Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.1 6/24/83; site unc.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!mcnc!unc!fsks From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: A book you all should check out Message-ID: <318@unc.UUCP> Date: Thu, 4-Apr-85 05:48:00 EST Article-I.D.: unc.318 Posted: Thu Apr 4 05:48:00 1985 Date-Received: Sun, 7-Apr-85 03:36:03 EST References: <283@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann) Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill Lines: 43 Summary: In article ee163ahe@sdcc13.UUCP (VICTOR ROMANO) responds to my previous posting: >>I know of one small publisher that specializes in books >>advising men on dealing with potential lovers. >>Write to this address to ask for a free catalog: >> >> SYMPHONY PRESS >> DEPT. CTL >> P.O. BOX 515 >> TENAFLY, NJ 07670 > I have a question: why is it that men seem to be the ones who > need to read books on understanding lovers/romantic relationships. > I am not criticizing men, for I have read some myself, but I am > wondering why women *don't* need them. Is it that they don't > have trouble developing relationships? Do they not care? Your premise is false. Women read much more about these topics than most men. Take a look at some of the popular women's magazines, e.g. Self, Cosmopolitan, Mademoiselle (sp?), Seventeen, New Woman, etc. Each issue usually contains several articles on developing romantic relationships with men. > What they need is not a guide for the relationship. Usually > they are -- and they tell you how to do the right things by > being understanding, etc... Well, basically, it rounds down > to putting forth an effort. I have always done this. Putting forth an effort is not enough. You must be able to guide your efforts in the right direction. Otherwise you'll just be banging your head against the wall. > But, > the real question is: How do you keep the women interested, > and how do you get her to put out an effort herself? Or, maybe > the question should be: How to find these women. These are the questions that these books try to cover. I hope to see future net.singles postings answering these questions. Anybody out there with ideas? Frank Silbermann