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From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: paying for meals
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Date: Sat, 6-Apr-85 16:06:55 EST
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When I go out on dates, I usually offer to pay.  There is an exception -- a 
really good friend of mine will almost always offer to pay her own way, so I 
won't object.  We've been friends for years and I've come to expect that she 
would pay her own way, so I don't even think about it.  I never asked her if she
offers to pay for some of the other dates she has, whether or not they are good
friends or new friends.  (In case you're wondering, she is not my SO or anything
like that.)

I do get irritated when my date *expects* me to pay, without even offering.  Now
before the flames come out to get me, I understand all the business about social
conventions, etc., and how some women are just taught that they are supposed to
let the man pay.  However, I consider it a little insulting when my dates just
expect me to pay, as if I've got all this money to be spending on them.

As far as food goes, I can only remember once when I cooked for one of my dates.
She didn't eat everything, but I can't remember if that was because she was
watching her waistline or whether she didn't like my cooking :-)

When I was in college I found dating to be expensive.  I wish I had started 
reading the net back then so I could have found cheaper things to do on dates.
-- 
			... hey, we've gotta get out of this place,
    			    there's got to be something better than this ...

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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