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From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
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Subject: Re: boyfriends
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Date: Sun, 7-Apr-85 12:28:03 EST
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Just a brief summary of the episodes so far:

The unanimous answer to the question "Did you ever say that you had a boyfriend
when you didn't" was yes.  The reasons given were also unanimous -- to get some
guy who was trying to make a move on them to leave them alone.  While this was
not exactly the response I was looking for, it's significant enough to warrant
its own discussion.

My co-workers conversation seemed to be along the lines of "women say that they
have boyfriends so that the guys (or other women) who are asking don't think
they are weird or strange or different".  I suppose the answers I got are some-
what related, because women may say that they have boyfriends so that they
avoid any possibility of being harrassed by guys.

But then, how do you know if someone you meet really has a boyfriend or whether
they are just saying so.  I know there are other ways, like observing her over a
period of time or asking friends of hers, but these seem awfully sneaky and if
someone was trying to find out information like that on me, without asking me
directly, I don't know how I'd feel about them.

I never went out on a date with a woman who currently had a boyfriend.  One of
my female friends had just broken up with her boyfriend and I went out dancing
with her, but it wasn't a real date, just two friends getting together.  I
thought she might like to get out and have a good time, since aside from her
boyfriend she didn't really have much of a social life.  Generally speaking,
I wouldn't pursue someone any further who said they already had a boyfriend,
because I figure they don't to date.
-- 
			... hey, we've gotta get out of this place,
    			    there's got to be something better than this ...

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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