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From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: Sex by numbers
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Date: Sun, 7-Apr-85 11:36:49 EST
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> From: beslove@osu-eddie.UUCP (Adam Beslove)

> Does anybody out there have a selection criteria they use for qualifying
> potential spouses?

I do, sort of, but I never really took the time to formulate it in words.  

> 1. Share my general philosophy and religion.

I think this is important.

> 2. Not a Bitch (Bitch Bitch.....)?

I agree, no one wants to be with someone who is always complaining.

> 3. Not Spoiled totally rotton by dad or mom & requiring spoiling by me
>    (aka Princess/Prince).

This is important too.  One female friend of mine is spoiled by her parents.
They are paying for her continued education (she never got her undergraduate
degree after four years so they are continuing to pay until she can finish off
all her pre-med courses).  That's not so bad, but they bought her an impractical
$20,000 car.  She doesn't work (she doesn't have to) but I don't think she ap-
preciates the value of money.  I don't think I could be married to someone like
that, because even if I make ten times as much as my parents did, I'm not going
to give my children gifts without them having an appreciation for the value of
the gift.  If I give my kids cars, it's going to be because they have shown a
need for them, and that they will take care of them.

> 4. Getting into a real career (one I can respect).

You have to be a little careful here.  "Real" careers depend upon the person in
question.  I know some people who don't consider working as a hacker a real
career, as opposed to some more productive venture (like working for IBM :-)
I can respect practically all careers that I don't find morally wrong (like
prostitution).  It might be more difficult to communcate with someone in a car-
eer vastly different from mine (like a nurse, or a bus driver) but I can appre-
ciate good, honest work.

> 5. Brains. 

Again, like in #4, this depends on the person.  You don't have to be a moby pro-
grammer, or a talented scientist, or super surgeon, to be smart.  There's plain
common sense, which is what I look for.

> Simple, fair and straigh-forward.  Disqualification is done sequentially.

I don't like to think of it as disqualification, but rather as "it's better to
just have this person as a friend than to start something romantic with them,
because the differences between us would make such a relationship difficult."
-- 
			... hey, we've gotta get out of this place,
    			    there's got to be something better than this ...

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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