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From: laura@utzoo.UUCP (Laura Creighton)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Subject: Re: boyfriends
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Date: Mon, 8-Apr-85 07:19:52 EST
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Posted: Mon Apr  8 07:19:52 1985
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I think that the notion ``because I am going out with you I can't go
out with anybody else'' is crazy. If two people who are going out
decide that they don't want to go out with anybody else, of course, I
think that this is fine. What I do not like is the notion that
your love life is supposed to work in waves. You know -- you meet
somebody, and they aren't attatched, and then you go out for awhile
and then things stop working out and then you have a fight and then
you patch things together until you finally *can't* patch things
together, and then it's over. Repeat until cynicism sinks in.

It is a lot easier if you are going out with more than one person.
The people in your life trickle in and trickle out and when a relationship
ends they are still around and you don't have to sit up nights thinking
``is all this damn pain worth it''? -- alone, of course. It also means
that you don't run around desperate for affection half the time.

By the way, if you are using ``I already have a boyfriend'' as a line to
keep someone at bay, you may get a surprise. I know several people who
explicitly look for people who are already in relationships to go out
with -- 'natch, since they are likely to understnad why they are
interested in holding down more than one relationship. You may get
exactly what you do not want to get...

Laura Creighton
utzoo!laura