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From: zubbie@wlcrjs.UUCP (Jeanette Zobjeck)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Subject: Re: boyfriends
Message-ID: <668@wlcrjs.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 8-Apr-85 21:14:56 EST
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Posted: Mon Apr  8 21:14:56 1985
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Reply-To: zubbie@wlcrjs.UUCP (Jeanette Zobjeck)
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Summary: 

>> Do you have a boyfriend?
>> Do you feel like you must have a boyfriend?
>> Did you ever say you had a boyfriend when you didn't?  Why?  Did you want others
>> to think you had one?
>> Do you find it difficult to meet nice guys? (apply your own definitions of nice)
>> Greg Skinner (gregbo)
>

no
no
yes ( It seemed like a good way to turn off a real clod in a bar when all
	I wanted to do was listen to the band.)
no  - if you mean men with which to form non-sexual friendships
yes  - if you mean men with whom I could establish a communicating relationship

I was engaged to marry a man who was perhaps all that some women could
ever want. He was kind, thoughtful generous and in a lot of ways sensitive
to my personal needs. He had one failing which ultimately broke us up.
I think it is best explained with a couple of quotes.

DAVE: All I ask is when I tell you to do something you do it first and
	ask questions later.

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Jeanette: But why do we have to live so far south of Chicago when we
	   could live more to the west and neither of us would have
	   so far to travel to work.

DAVE: You wont be working once we are married. I guess you can keep your
	job until you move in with me though.

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DAVE: (1st 3 months of engagement) : Hi Honey, how was your day?
I'm a little bushed from the drive up here *(about 100 miles)*
do you mind if we dont go out this evening.

DAVE (4th month and onward)  : SHEESH ! WHAT A LONG DRIVE. Fix me a
couple of martinis (as he heads off down the hall)
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I dont need a *boyfriend*. I do need and want friends, both male and
female, with whom to enjoy life with. If women are more able to
communicate with me and I with them then I will probably have (and do)
more women friends then men. When, and if, I ever meet a man who can
really care about me as a person and not as his compliment I may 
try again to form some real and meaningful relationship which i guess
could be called *boyfriend* in the mean time I find that doing all
I can to develop myself and to help establish women as real people
in this world are more than enough for me to feel that my life has 
a large value. 

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Jeanette L. Zobjeck
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