Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/18/84; site sdcc13.UUCP Path: utzoo!watmath!clyde!bonnie!akgua!sdcsvax!sdcc3!sdcc13!ee163ahe From: ee163ahe@sdcc13.UUCP (VICTOR ROMANO) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: paying for meals Message-ID: <186@sdcc13.UUCP> Date: Mon, 1-Apr-85 15:41:25 EST Article-I.D.: sdcc13.186 Posted: Mon Apr 1 15:41:25 1985 Date-Received: Wed, 3-Apr-85 01:41:30 EST References: <252@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: ee163ahe@sdcc13.UUCP (VICTOR ROMANO) Organization: U.C. San Diego, Academic Computer Center Lines: 38 Summary: In article malik@helos.DEC (Karl Malik ZK01-1/F22 1-1440) writes: >> >>Paying for meals (consistantly) is a way of obtaining power >>over another person. Let me mention that just recently I had been dating someone. We went out many times, but I often had to pay because she didn't have money on her, and I wanted her to go. Usually, it was just because I wanted to treat her. Sometimes she paid for me, but this didn't happen as often (I happen to like being treated out). She eventually wanted to stop dating, and guess what: she paid me back! I guess this was just intended to "set the record straight", which I could understand at *that* time, but that means she had actually been *keeping track* all along. It basically told me the painful truth that our seemingly wonderful relationship was very artificial, and she was preparing for this "break-up" (or whatever) all along. This is an instance of her wanting to gain "power" over me by hurting, which hurts only more to know she had those intentions from the very beginning. This is not the only time this has happened to me. Any comments? Victor Romano What's that sound? What sound? Is it the piper? Do you mean Syd? No, I mean Dave. ------------------------------------------- If I promised you the moon and the stars, would you believe it? Games people play in the middle of the night. -AP