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From: john@sol1.UUCP (john)
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Subject: Re: adoption and bio parents search
Message-ID: <287@sol1.UUCP>
Date: Sat, 30-Mar-85 22:13:13 EST
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Posted: Sat Mar 30 22:13:13 1985
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In article <1560013@acf4.UUCP> rjl7498@acf4.UUCP (Reginald J. Lewis) writes:
>>
>>	QUESTION!
>>
>>	Why do adoptees look for their bio parents when they have
>>perfectly good parents... you know, those who were there when needed?
>>
>>			Julie Hoff ihnp4!ihuxe!hoff
>
>	That question has often puzzled me.
>
>	The way I see it is that almost any living animal can give birth,
>	but it takes love and understanding to look after and care for
>	a child.  This love and understanding is given by the parents 
>	who raise a child; it takes even more love and care to look 
>	after a child which is not ones own biological child.
>
>	Much pain and heartbreak would be spared if adoption records
>	were sealed (or preferably destroyed -- sealed records often find
>	a way to be unsealed) and people were thankful for those that 
>	cared enough to become parents to someone elses child.
>
>
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>
>   Reginald J. Lewis  
>   CIMS, New York University
>   New York, NY 10012
>
>   ...allegra!cmcl2!acf4!rjl7498
>		or
>   ...allegra!cmcl2!rna!rocky2!lewisr

Well Reginald, It's obvious that you aren't adopted. And should really
refrain from comments which are similar to saying that blacks shouldn't be
allowed to vote.

The reasons for searching for biological parents are many. Some of which are
1) Family medical background
2) Curiousity
3) Understanding your self more completely 

Many of those who grew up with their biological parents have a great deal
of difficulty relating to these needs.

This is not to say of course that ANY credit/love/etc. should be taken away
from the adoptive parents. As a person who was located by, and has a good 
relationship with his birthparents, (Adoptive parents are no longer living),
It's somewhat like an addition to the family, They could never replace my
adoptive parents.

[ Take what I say in a different way ]
[        and it's easy to say        ]
[     that this is all confusion     ]

	John Korsmeyer  @  THE SOLUTION

	EMAIL:  {akgua,ihnp4}!sol1!john