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From: john@moncol.UUCP (John Ruschmeyer)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Fitting into her life
Message-ID: <248@moncol.UUCP>
Date: Fri, 5-Apr-85 12:47:52 EST
Article-I.D.: moncol.248
Posted: Fri Apr  5 12:47:52 1985
Date-Received: Sat, 6-Apr-85 03:17:29 EST
Organization: Monmouth College, West Long Branch, NJ 07764
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As a start to a possible new discussion, I'd like to take a page from my
life and get your opinions:

   I have been dating a particular MTOS for about three months. We had
been going out fairly regularly, but have not for the past two week as she
has been trying to catch up on her schoolwork. (She attends a local
community college and has put some things off until the last minute.)

   I can certainly sympathize with her as I have been going to college long
enough to have been that behind at least once. :-) What I have trouble with
is the following:

     I called her on Monday to see if she might be able to go out
     some time this week. She said she wasn't sure, but to check
     with her on Thursday and we'd try to go out that night. Well,
     when I called on Thursday, she said that she had not finished
     and would not be able to go out. When I asked if she might be
     free the next night, she replied that she was going out to
     Great Adventure (a local amusement park).

   I assume she is going there with her girlfriends (no I am not that
naive, you have to know this girl). She and I have also never gone out on a
Saturday or Sunday because she's usually out with her friends.

   I guess I am a bit jealous. I wonder how many times in the past two
weeks she's told her girlfriends she couldn't go out because she had to get
caught up on her work?!?

   I know that I am relatively new in her life, but I still think I deserve
a bit better. I feel as though she has not yet "fit me into" her life.
Instead I feel like a low priority task which can be shelved when something
else comes along. (Did it ever occur to her that maybe I'd like to have
come along?)


   What I was wondering was whether anyone else has ever had that problem
and, if so, how did you handle it? I don't know whether I should grin and
bear it hoping that she'll slowly fit me in or whether I should let her
know how I feel. (I'm really afraid of this one as it took me a while to
find this girl and would rather not screw it up.) I'm even wondering
whether I should just move on to someone else and just chalk it up as a bad
experience.


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