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From: jackson@curium.DEC (Seth Jackson)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: re: female attractiveness
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Date: Fri, 5-Apr-85 16:25:53 EST
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Posted: Fri Apr  5 16:25:53 1985
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>Just look at all these women's magazines they buy.  Most of the models
>are very slender.  Women then take these as the example of the
>"perfect" women, just because a *few select* men who publish these
>magazines find such women attractive.  Well, I say those women ought to
>get their heads out of the magazines and look at the real world!  There
>are plenty of men out there who like not-so-slender women.

Sorry, but the *few select* men who publish these magazines are doing
what they do because they want to make money. They make money by selling
lots of magazines. They sell lots of magazines by publishing what the 
masses of people like. Thus, the images you see in the magazines do 
not reflect the personal tastes of the *few select* men who are the 
publishers, but rather they reflect the tastes of the mass market.

To say that men pressure women to be "beautiful" is true. We all know
that personality is the most important thing, etc., but for me personally,
if I meet a woman with a wonderful personality that I do not find
sexually attractive, then I have found a friend, not a lover.
Of course, some men care about this more than others. Some don't care at 
all. And not all men believe slim is beautiful, but there are a heck of 
a lot out there that do.

The problem that a lot of women (and men) seem to have is separating the
ideal from reality. When we see these beautiful men and women in magazines,
in the movies, and on T.V., there is a tendency to compare ourselves
against them and see how ugly we look compared to these perfect creatures.
What we need to do is to get a grip on reality and realize that, of course
these people are gorgeous...that's what they do for a living! These people
are the ideal of beauty (yes, I know, not for everybody, but for many), but
we can be attractive and even beautiful without being perfect.

What's the conclusion? It's only natural for people (men and women) to
want to be attractive. It's just a matter of being realistic in your
expectations and goals for yourself. And remember, you can talk about
your plenty, talk about your ills, but one man gathers what another
man spills...
					Seth Jackson