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From: lmf@drutx.UUCP (FullerL)
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Subject: Re: Role models for gay relationships
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Date: Fri, 19-Apr-85 11:15:42 EST
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I am presently in a settled committed relationship with my partner and
it's wonderful.  We are also parents. They are her biological children
and we are trying to arrange for the schools, etc. to recognize me in terms
of ability to give permission and receive information. We haven't got that
all worked out yet. I'm sure it will have to be renegotiated each year with
each new teacher.

We are also setting up wills and power of attorney papers so the guardianship
of the children will be spelled out. Also we will be able to visit each
other as familiy if we are in the hospital and make medical and
other decisions for each other if one of us is unable to. We of course are
also each others beneficiarys if anything happens to one of us. We found
a lesbian lawyer with experience in this area to set this all us for us.
(By the way neither of us have a great deal of money, at all)

Most of my role models came from books when I first came out. Then I got
to know more lesbians and many of them were in longterm committed relationships.
Some of the relationships have lasted and some have not. I don't know anyone
who has been in a relationship for say 10 years at this point and it would
be nice to see some people who have managed to stay together and happy for
many years. I'm convinced that it's possible, though.

I was conditioned to believe in lifelong relationships (my parents have had
a reasonably good marriage for 30 years).   I don't remember thinking that
I had to give up the idea of a lifelong relationship when I discovered that
I was a lesbian.
		Lori Fuller  ihnp4!drutx!lmf