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From: carson@homxa.UUCP (P.CARSTENSEN)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: giggly "girls"
Message-ID: <885@homxa.UUCP>
Date: Thu, 11-Apr-85 17:38:52 EST
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Posted: Thu Apr 11 17:38:52 1985
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First of all, I try to call people what they want to be called (within
reason, I have a lot of trouble saying "honeybunch" with a straight
face *grin*)

On the other hand, I also think that "girls giggle."  In general,
I have some mental categories like "boy", "girl" (sweet, but basically
*boring*), "chick", "jerk" (actively obnoxious, in different ways)
"twit" that I use to *think* about some people/behaviors.  This is not
to say that I go around angrily muttering "twit" under my breath (only
when driving in Joisey :-) since it ain't real productive (people don't
need telepathy to pick up this sort of signal and it gets in the way...)
And I don't expect that my opinion will change any behaviors;  on the
other hand, I don't expect to change MY values because others don't live
by them.  Anyhow, I figure if a given behavior works (or even if it
doesn't), I don't judge the person -- and it doesn't even much
interfere with my liking the person.  It *does* make a difference tho
in the kind and the amount of effort I'll expend on a relationship with
them, how much trust I'll give, and so on.  (Umm, "liking" is sort of
a generic feeling, that for me can be "elder sisterly" or "intimate"
or whatever...so there are some twits I like...)  And there are useful
categories of behaviors to be avoided in myself, not always altogether
successfully *sigh*, but that I *do* have to try to weed out before they
get too developed...
Patty