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From: jay@npois.UUCP (Anton Winteroak)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: re entering marriage
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Date: Wed, 17-Apr-85 13:08:16 EST
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Posted: Wed Apr 17 13:08:16 1985
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	At a place I used to work, we had a resident Jewish Mother
(self-confessed). He was 26 years old, but when he went into JM mode
you would swear he was 60, female, and had four millenia of wisdom.
	He said that the three most difficult years for most
marriages are The first year (when you realize that you've
got a lot to work out), the third year (when after seeing what
looked like steady improvements all through the second year, you
start to think it still isn't any better), and the first year you
have a baby (when you are broke, and haven't had a whole nights sleep
for longer than you can remember, and getting away is a lot more
complicated than ever before).
	He recommends that you put the baby off till the forth
year at the earliest, so that you don't get two of these years in
the same year. Also, if you are going to split up early, it will
probably happen in the third year.
	He also suggests that you can make some simple precautions
about property splits in the event of a breakup, but if you really
need to split up, you will feel like it's only money. Any loss is
better than this.

			Anton Winteroak.