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From: ssk@mhuxl.UUCP (KIOUSSOPOULOS)
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Subject: Re: Dancing Misc.
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Date: Thu, 2-May-85 09:03:23 EDT
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Posted: Thu May  2 09:03:23 1985
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> I enjoy going to clubs and dancing. Actually, I love dancing even
> if I don't know how! I don't see any harm in asking a guy to dance.
> Guys ( some of them ) tend to think that you are "easy" if you
> are the one to ask. Girls seem to think that you are an embarrassment to them.
> I personally don't care what they think if a guy asks me to dance I always
> do, unless I am exhausted. There is always one guy who thinks dancing
> leads to something else! My friends seem  to think that you don't dance
> unless a guy asks, that could turn out to be a boring evening. I have a
> male friend who doesn't understand how a girl can refuse to dance when
> she is moving to the music, while she is sitting. I don't have an answer
> for that, even if I did there are sooo many reasons. He is the first guy
> I asked to dance, and he was suprised yet he respected me for it, now
> he is one of my friends. Then there is the other type of guy who will
> hang on to you all evening if you asked him to dance. It all depends on
> the individual, how the person asks, and how she portrays herself all
> evening.

I totally agree with you! In my humble opinion, there should be nothing
*wrong* with asking a guy to dance, yet, the guy either thinks you
are being forward, aggresive, pushy, easy, etc. If he doesn't think
those things he is totally amazed that you asked him. Or he says ok,
or he says no. It isn't very fun when someone says no to just a dance.
I usually dance to fast songs with whoever asks me, and i don't see
any harm in that. It's just a dance. And if the guy keeps bothering me after
that i just tell him truthfully that I would prefer him not to. 

At clubs in NYC it seems like more guys will ask you to dance, but so
far in NJ I haven't found much success in that aspect of going out
dancing. It really puzzles me what everyone's hangup is. I go out
to clubs in NJ and everyone, almost, is trying to look bored, uninterested,
and aloof. Practically no one smiles! Or seems to be enjoying themselves!

Like I said before it's a lot different in some of the clubs in Colorado.
People go out to have fun, meet other people, to dance, and also sometimes
to just drink. But at least out there people will dance even if they
don't know how, just for the fun of it. That's what i go out for, just
for the fun of it.