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From: woods@hao.UUCP (Greg Woods)
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Subject: Re: dates (and dancing in bars and m/f behavior . . .)
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Date: Thu, 2-May-85 12:51:36 EDT
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> Just a few more random questions:
> 
> Do you like to go out dancing?

   Yes, I LOVE to dance. I also hate the generalizations being made here that
men only go to bars to pick up women. That is a very sexist remark, and if I
made an equivalent remark about women the feminists would (justifiably) flame
me from here to eternity. Here's at least one guy who loves to dance for
dancing's sake.

> do you like to go out to places where people dance, because you can
> meet MOTAS there, even though you may not like dancing or may not be good at
> it?

  I'm certainly not "good" at it (whatever that means), and yes, I do go to
dance bars *partly* to meet MOTOS. But then again, as long as I lack an SO,
I do almost everything I do *partly* as a chance to meet potential SO's, dates,
lovers, or what have you. I try to keep my options open and have no 
expectations. Dance bars are a good place for me because it's a no-lose 
situation. Since I love to dance I can have a good time whether or not I meet
someone. The ideal situation.

> If at such places, do you like to spend the time just watching the people on
> the floor, or do you try to start conversations with MOTAS, or just sip your
> favorite brew?

 All of the above.

> Do you go alone, or with a bunch of other guys?

  In general, I prefer a mixed group (gender-wise). I do love to dance, but I
*hate* the "dance scene". I hate the actual act of finding a dance partner.
I have to put my ego on the line to be rejected, I have to worry about how to
ask for a dance without it being interpreted as a pick-up (while still keeping
the latter option open in case I *do* find that particular woman attractive
after I talk to her for a while), etc. It can be a real nerve-straining
experience. I prefer to go with female friends; that way, I have someone to
dance with without the necessity of going through the hassle of finding a
dance partner. Obviously, I go to dance bars *primarily* to dance.

> Assuming you like to go out dancing, do you hope to meet potential SO's where
> you dance, or do you hope to make friends (I do), or do you just look for 
> people to dance with?

  All of the above.

> Do you find it difficult to meet people at places to dance?  (I do.)

  Yes, as described above.

--Greg
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