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From: gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner)
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Subject: Re: dancing
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Date: Sat, 4-May-85 03:05:23 EDT
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> From: regard@ttidcc.UUCP (Adrienne Regard)

> I like dancing mucho, but I don't like sitting around drinking too much
> trying to make uninteresting conversation interesting at the top of my
> lungs.  

I feel the same way sometimes.  When I am out dancing, sometimes the music
is just too loud for me and I can't hear what people are saying to me.  It
also makes it hard to start conversations with the people you dance with,
if you have to shout so they can hear you, and vice versa.  Also, when the
place is too crowded and hot, I lose interest.

> I finally got up the guts (or hardshell) enough
> to tell one of them that "It's been nice talking, but I came here to dance"
> his face fell so ludicrously that I felt bad for a week.

That's too bad.  I can imagine myself doing the same.  Naturally, when you go
out (anywhere), if you meet someone you want them to get to know you, and you
to know them, etc.  It's only natural that they would want to talk to you some
more, and perhaps ask you out on a date.

When I was in college, I met a lot of women at dances/parties.  Many of them
became good friends.  I sort of took these steps to meet somebody.
If they smiled at me while we were dancing, I would say hi, introduce myself,
ask them their name, what school they went to, etc.  The more dances they
danced with me, the more we would talk.  If they never looked at me, I would
try to start conversation, but if nothing really started I'd just stop dan-
cing after the song was over.  If a woman danced with me for a few dances, and
a slow song came on, I would ask them if they wanted to take a walk and get
something to drink, and we would talk some more while the slow song played.
Occasionally, I would ask someone I didn't know to slow dance with me if I had
been dancing with them most of the night, and we had become pretty friendly.
I suppose somewhere in all this, I would have asked their number, gave them
mine, etc.  Such were the joys of college.

> The most wonderful thing is to have a dancing partner (or a number of 'em)
> who simply enjoys that form of exercise, and you go have fun.  

I agree, in fact I preferred going to parties where I was friends with a lot
of the women.  I had a good time dancing with them.  Women have told me that
a lot of times they say no to guys who ask them to dance when they don't know
them.  I guess men have an edge here, I didn't feel odd asking someone to 
dance who I didn't know (but now I'm starting to).

Well, it's getting late.  I'm not too thrilled with my dancing prospects as of
late, however, I'm still interested in where other people like to dance and
what they like to do (that includes Canadians, Mexicans, Europeans, Martians,
Ewoks, Plaid Warlocks (chuq, are you still out there?) and what ever other
folks like to dance).  Keep those messages coming in!
-- 
She's on fire, 'cause dancin' takes her higher than anything else she knows!

Greg Skinner (gregbo)
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