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From: ee163ahe@sdcc13.UUCP (VICTOR ROMANO)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Subject: Re: dates (and dancing in bars and m/f behavior . . .)
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Date: Fri, 3-May-85 14:31:57 EDT
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	I think this is a survey, but decided to post it in public
	because it admits some things that I haven't seen anyone else
	admit.  Am I alone on these opinions?  Or am I just the only
	*man* out there who isn't afraid to admit them?

	Let me first show a small summary of articles to show some support
	that I am not the "sex starved" male that a lot of you will
	think after reading this.

In article <720@rayssd.UUCP> hxe@rayssd.UUCP writes:
>>    4) If women are so keen to dance (otherwise why would they be
>>       dancing alone, or with each other) why don't they ask a guy
>>       to dance? Last time I checked the calendar it was the mid-80's,
>>       not the 50's.
>> Rick Gillespie	  ...!{cepu|ihnp4|sdcrdcf|ucbvax}!ucla-cs!rick
>
>Excuse me, but these women *are* dancing.  They're just not dancing
>with men.  Is this what upsets you?  When I go out to dance, I go
>out to dance, not to meet men.

In article <1225@houxm.UUCP> gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner) writes:
>Just a short comment on women dancing with women.
>
>Women are pretty lucky to be able to get other women to go out dancing with
>them.  It is not generally accepted for men to dance with other men.  If I
>were to ask some of my male friends to dance, they'd probably look at me
>very strangely.
>It's tough on men who like to go out dancing but can't find women to dance
>with them, because they are happy dancing with other women.
>
>Greg Skinner (gregbo)

	And, on to my answers to the survey...


In article <1224@houxm.UUCP> gregbo@houxm.UUCP (Greg Skinner) writes:
>(For guys)
>Do you like to go out dancing?

	No.  Dancing is fun once in a while, but it's usually boring.

>If not, do you like to go out to places where people dance, because you can
>meet MOTAS there, even though you may not like dancing or may not be good at
>it?

	I cannot say I *like* to do that, but once in a while I go.  When
	I go, thought, it is specifically for the reason of meeting MOTAS.
	Remember all those old articles that were around telling
	men who have trouble finding women to go to dance places?  Well
	I do, for that reason.  So why do women object when men go
	for this reason then?  They were the ones advising it in the
	earlier articles.

>If at such places, do you like to spend the time just watching the people on
>the floor, or do you try to start conversations with MOTAS, or just sip your
>favorite brew?

	I try to start conversations with MOTAS.  Unfortunately, most
	MOTAS are uninterested in starting conversations with me, so I
	usually wind up spending the time just watching the people on
	the floor.  I do not drink beer.

>Do you go alone, or with a bunch of other guys?

	I sometimes go alone.  I sometimes go with other guys.  And
	once in a blue moon, I actually go with a woman or a group of
	women.

>Assuming you like to go out dancing, do you hope to meet potential SO's where
>you dance, or do you hope to make friends (I do), or do you just look for 
>people to dance with?

	All three.  I find all of these difficult to do a dances.  I must
	say that I *do* enjoy dancing *if I'm dancing with someone*.
	So, I am not really going to the wrong place to do what I want.

>Do you find it difficult to meet people at places to dance?  (I do.)

	Definitely.


	So, you have it.  When I go to dances, I basically go to meet MOTAS,
	and hopefully potential SOs.  However, I never have found this to
	be a very good place to go for these things.  Thus, I don't go
	very often.


			Victor Romano

		What's that sound?
		What sound?
		Is it the piper?
		Do you mean Syd?
		No, I mean Dave.

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We're two of a kind, silence and I.  We need a chance to talk things over.
We're two of a kind, silence and I.  We need a chance to work it out.
			-AP