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From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: What people look for in MOTAS
Message-ID: <158@unc.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 6-May-85 14:24:02 EDT
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Posted: Mon May  6 14:24:02 1985
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Summary: 

In article <rocheste.9484> noemi@rochester.UUCP (Noemi Berry) writes:

>>Since most people eventually do find SOMEBODY, I can only assume that
>>most people do indeed possess at least some sex appeal.  So why do
>>homely men have so much more trouble attracting beautiful women?
>>Why do homely women have so much trouble attracting desirable men?
>>Why, with most couples, are both partners comparably good looking?
>>If people really do choose their mates primarily on the basis of
>>character and personality, why aren't the pairings more random
>>with respect to looks?
>>  ....
>>Conclusion:	Assuming people REALLY choose their SO's on the basis
>>		of personality and character --  then when judging your
>>		personality and character, people are heavily influenced
>>		by how good-looking you are.

>	One interesting theory from social psychology has to do with 
>	people "matching" each other.  That is, IN GENERAL, people have
>	a pretty good concept of where they rate in attractiveness and
>	TEND TO BE ATTRACTED TO THOSE WHO ARE ON ABOUT THE SAME "LEVEL".

Psychology Today's explaination was that people choose their partners
to be AS GOOD LOOKING AS POSSIBLE.  It is only to avoid pointless
frustration, disappointment and rejection that they settle for the
best they can get, i.e. someone whose looks are comparable.

>        I've rarely seen an awful-looking guy with a beautiful girl
>	or vice versa, but one does tend to see a lot of average-looking
>	couples or gorgeous couples or hideous couples.  (Then again,
>	we have Christie Brinkley and Billy Joel! :-) )

Occasionally wealth, power, fame or good social connections will substitute
for good looks.

MORAL:	If you are dissatisfied with the men/women who've been available
	to you and want to increase your drawing power, one of the most
	effective things you can do is to become better-looking.

		Frank Silbermann