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From: mccolm@ucla-cs.UUCP
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.women
Subject: Re: dancing and singles' bars
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Date: Sun, 12-May-85 17:21:37 EDT
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Posted: Sun May 12 17:21:37 1985
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Reply-To: mccolm@ucla-cs.UUCP (Eric McColm)
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Summary: What is the purpose of a singles' bar?

>>The main problem is there are those
>>who go to get laid, and they assume everyone else does as well.  
>
>I've said (posted) this before, and I'll say it again.  What's
>wrong with going out to get laid?

The problem is that they assume everyone else wants to as well.

>...The only problem I can see with it would be dishonesty, i.e.,
>don't tell someone you're interested in really getting to know
>them if you just want to go to bed with them.
>Chris

This is a prevalent deception.  Let's face it; the attitude of the
people I am trying to ridicule resembles a Minimax game tree strategy
rather than a human social interaction.  Because of this, these sorts
will follow any behavior they think will achieve the goal.

It would be nice if there was some socially acceptable way that people
who are interested in spending the night with anyone could communicate
this outright, rather than engaging in mating dances of ludicrous
sophistication.  The real purpose of the Sexual Revolution was (I thought)
to allow people to be more honest about their sexual feelings and
desires.  Unfortunately, I don't think it's working.

The only real advantage of this would be that people who want to dance
could dance, people who want to meet people can meet people, and people
who want to satisfy their carnal urges can do that too, all without
social firewalking, deception, hurt feelings, etc, etc, etc.  That is,
without worrying that the person you are talking to now doesn't want
what you want.  Of course, there also has to be a socially acceptable
way of saying either yes or no, to any of the above propositions.

Alas, there is currently no socially acceptable way to communicate *just*
what you want out of the person you are talking to.  And reading body
language and vocal inflections is difficult in a hot, smoky, dark, and
noisy singles' bar.

This doesn't solve the whole problem, of course, but I think it might be
an improvement.  Any better ideas?
--fini--
Eric McColm
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