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From: fritzz@sdcc3.UUCP (fritzz)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: second tries
Message-ID: <2847@sdcc3.UUCP>
Date: Mon, 13-May-85 16:51:23 EDT
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Posted: Mon May 13 16:51:23 1985
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Does anybody out there have any experience or ideas on restarting a
relationship once it has been broken up?

The scenario is this: My current XSO and possible SO2B is seriously
considering the possibilities of getting back together with me. She
"left" me about 8 months ago (we have remained the best of friends),
because she had no previous experience with dating guys, and felt kind
of restricted in our relationship (not that I opposed her going out with
other people, but that being in a relationship with me made it difficult
to establish one with others.) She is eager to restart it, and so am I.
I think.
What I am worried about is how to deal with the resentment of what
happened between us, and my pain from the breakup. I have forgiven her,
but I also am afraid that little pangs of jealousy might start cropping
up in my feelings towards her. I serioulsy have no idea of what will
really happen, and I have never really seen this happen effectivly
before. (I've only seen it attempted once, and the situation was quite a
bit different.) So tell me: Is it possible to love someone again the
same way you used to? I think I'm going to find out the hard way, but
I'd also like to know what I'm going to be up against.

Any comments, either constructive or destructive, are appreciated.
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