Relay-Version: version B 2.10 5/3/83; site utzoo.UUCP Posting-Version: version B 2.10.2 9/5/84; site uwmacc.UUCP Path: utzoo!linus!philabs!cmcl2!seismo!uwvax!uwmacc!susie From: susie@uwmacc.UUCP (sue brunkow) Newsgroups: net.singles Subject: Re: second tries Message-ID: <1104@uwmacc.UUCP> Date: Sun, 19-May-85 16:44:10 EDT Article-I.D.: uwmacc.1104 Posted: Sun May 19 16:44:10 1985 Date-Received: Mon, 20-May-85 08:24:45 EDT References: <2847@sdcc3.UUCP> <227@unc.UUCP> Reply-To: susie@uwmacc.UUCP (sue brunkow) Organization: UWisconsin-Madison Academic Comp Center Lines: 32 >In article <2847@sdcc3.UUCP> fritzz@sdcc3.UUCP (fritzz) writes: >> Does anybody out there have any experience or ideas on restarting a >> relationship once it has been broken up? > I have done this at least 3 different times! The first two times (once when I was 17, and once when I was 19) didn't turn out very well. We had broken up because we wanted different things out of the relationship. Well, that didn't change over time, and when we got back together again, we had all of the same problems that we had the first time! (Surprise!) The situation which I am in now is similar to yours. My SO hadn't dated too many other people, and he wondered what it would be like. We broke up for two years, and both dated other people. During those two years , he was always my best friend. Getting back together again (about a year ago), was very difficult. Although we really cared about each other, there was a lot of hurt on both sides. We had to admit that we had both acted like jerks at times. It was hard to forgive each other for some things, and every time we had a fight, all of the old hurts would come back out. But we seem to be working that out over time. I think it is certainly worth trying. If you can understand her reasons for wanting to date other people, and not take it as a rejection of you personally, you will be off to a good start. Good luck! Sue Brunkow University of Wisconsin {allegra, seismo, ihnp4}!uwvax!uwmacc!susie