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From: csc@watmath.UUCP (Computer Sci Club)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: loneliness
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Date: Tue, 2-Apr-85 06:43:09 EDT
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Posted: Tue Apr  2 06:43:09 1985
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> Try this for a cure for loneliness: Go outside for a long
> walk somewhere, allowing a couple of hours. During the
> walk, honestly examine in your mind what you really want
> to do with your life; don't worry if you don't trust
> yourself to come up with a practical, reasonable goal--
> that doesn't matter--just come up with a goal, and be
> honest with yourself--is it something you really want to
> do, or is it what others tell you you should do (or what
> you think is "expected" of you). If you want to be a
> fireman or a circus lion-tamer, so be it.
> 
> Once you have  established this goal, very carefully outline
> a series of steps that must be taken -- a set of intermediate
> goals, and methodically start down the list. If the goal
> is at all ambitious, you'll have plenty to do, and therein
> lies the cure of loneliness--keep busy at what you want
> to do, and you'll have all the company you need (unless your
> goal is to be a hermit, in which case you're not being
> honest with yourself).
> 
> Don't be afraid to periodically go through the process all
> over again; as one gains experience, one's values and goals
> should evolve, so don't rigidly force yourself down a
> path that is now obsolete; on the other hand, don't abandon
> a goal just because the going gets tough from time to time.
> 
> This may all sound simplistic, but loneliness is really 
> self-imposed--the lonely person is feeling sorry for
> themselves because the world isn't beating a path to
> their door; the point is, YOU beat a path to the world's
> door--life is really what you make it. Just remind yourself
> from time to time how short life is--what fraction of
> your lifespan is already gone? If you found out tomorrow
> that you have a fatal disease and have 1 year left, what
> would you do to get the most out of this last year?
> Well, start doing it now, because there really aren't 
> very many years left, so don't waste any!
> 
> Finally, work on your sense of humor--go see comedies,
> read humorous novels, stories, etc.; try writing some.
> Learn the art of telling jokes (the best ones are a
> bit off-color); use your imagination.
>  --Rich Ganns ihnp4!hou2a!hound!ganns

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Hi,

  You have a good idea there. It is also not just for use with 
combatting loneliness though, it is good when you are tied up in
a situation where you feel you have no escape. I am currently mixed
up in a very complicated situation and when I go for walks my mind
clarifies the situation, and helps me deal with it.
  As for keeping a sense of humour that is utmost really. If you can't
laugh at a situation then maybe its not the situation to be in.

				Thanks again,
					Alan Whitton
					UofW Computer Science Club