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From: noemi@rochester.UUCP (Noemi Berry)
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Subject: Re: What people look for in MOTAS
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Date: Tue, 14-May-85 16:38:42 EDT
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>> 	Like yourself!!   Smile!!  One's attitude and carriage has as
>> much to do with attractiveness as facial features or other characteristics.
>> Get into shape physically and your confidence will improve.  A  positive 
>> self-image and a confident air are ESSENTIAL components of "attractiveness".
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>Just the suggestion "Like yourself" won't do it for you, I'm sure:
>you need a *reason* to gain your own approval.  That makes things much
>more difficult.
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>			Jeff Brown the Scumbag


	OF COURSE you need a reason!  Or a few.  I never meant just go
out and suddenly like yourself - I for one most certainly know it can be a
long and difficult process.  But the final result is often a *component*
of attractiveness!!  

>I've seen several cases where a *physical* change wasn't necessary.  

	I've seen MANY!  But a physical change is only an example.  I
know that when I'm low on self-esteem, often a good workout and knowing
that I can rely on my body and my health helps.  Sometimes, but not
always.  Sometimes doing something else that I feel is unique and that 
I like about myself helps (e.g. I'll start a new knitting project!!)
But not always!  FINDING those reasons to like oneself, and then using
them  *can be* important to self-esteem maintenance.

	The point is, there are no absolutes; there is no formula 
that can be applied with success to all people!!  All I meant was that
in general, I have found that people with positive self-images and
who **in general** are happy with who they are, tend to be happier
AND this **tends to** reflect in MCTAS *.  Liking yourself is *one*
aspect of attractiveness over which one DOES have a measure of control!

(Is it my imagination or is this subject kinda boring?  DON'T answer that,
please!!!!)
						-Noemi 


* (Matters Concerning The {Appropriate, Alternate, Attractive} Sex)  
[Many thanks to the 30-some-odd people who replied to my naive question: 
What exactly IS an MOTAS?]

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