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Subject: Re: What people look for in MOTAS
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Date: Thu, 23-May-85 13:35:27 EDT
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> >Frank was close, but not exactly right.  You don't have to BECOME better
> >looking - you have to THINK you are better looking.   

And Greg responds with:
  >Yes, but you must be careful here. There is a fine line between self-
>confidence and conceit. Conceit turns people off. I'm curious: just how
>does one walk this line? Having been, at various times in my life, totally
>lacking in self-confidence or conceited, I'd really like to know what is
>the difference? 

	As I see it the difference between conceit and self-confidence 
is attitude. If you around telling people how wonderful you are, they
are not going to appreciate it.  If you are competent and self-assured,
people will see that you have confidence in yourself, and you won't
have to tell them how wonderful you are. You don't want to hit people
over the head with your self-confidence. Walking around saying "I'm
just such a wonderful person" is not going to win you friends nor
impress anyone. If you attack life with enthusiasm, and resist
the human temptation to crawl in a hole and avoid all setbacks, the
people around you will react to your behavior positively. You could
say you're giving them a subliminal message that you are self-confident
and a fun person. 

Sharon Badian	ihnp4!mtgzz!seb