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From: rjv@ihdev.UUCP (ron vaughn)
Newsgroups: net.singles,net.social
Subject: Re: Money vs. Good looks
Message-ID: <238@ihdev.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 26-May-85 02:05:19 EDT
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Posted: Sun May 26 02:05:19 1985
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Summary: 

In article <371@h-sc1.UUCP> desjardins@h-sc1.UUCP (marie desjardins) writes:
>I'm not convinced of this totally.  For example, a question that bothers
>me (I have no answer to it, unfortunately) is "why do we judge people on
>the basis of their intelligence?  why do intelligent people often have it
>so much better than unintelligent people?"  Why should intelligence, which
....
>be intelligent), be used to judge a person?  I think the answers to this
>question are not as simple as one might think.  (You may disagree, that's
>fine.)  
>
>	marie desjardins

i think it's partly because people "admire" intelligence.  that is THE
NUMBER ONE way someone can really impress me, with their intelligence.
while not everyone feels as strongly about this, almost everyone *is*
impressed with intelligence.  if a bunch of us are working on a tough
math problem and are stuck, but joe schmoe comes along, screatches his
head, and figures it out, let's face it, we are impressed.  we think
"ghee, why didn't i see that" etc.  

why do intelligent people have it so much better?  depends on what you
mean by intelligence, it's a pretty wide open term, but part of intelligence
(to me) means you can, like the example above, solve problems better.
intelligence is a profitable, marketable asset to have.  you do your
job better, "smarter", more efficiently etc.  if you are intelligent
and apply your intelligence to your job, life, studies etc., (and
most (not all) intelligent people are intelligent enough to do so), you
will go far and be "so much better".

i think intelligence is a very good, but not complete, way to judge someone. 
for the record, when it comes to "how i judge women" in terms of
being my SO, here are some of the major items:

	good looks		// yes, she must be good looking
	good sense of humor 	// i have an ever running sense of humor, and
					i'm an unstoppable kidder
	intelligence	    	// see above
	spirit of adventure 	// "what the hell, let's do it!!"
	good communication 	// has to be for good relationship
		skills
	honest			// has to be for good relationship
	can put up with me	// we all have our quirks, mine aren't
				   necessarily awful, but i have my share
				   like everyone else.

some may give me crap about the "good looking" part, but i'm being honest.
there are BILLIONS of women out there.  when i choose a mate (actually,
i already have) i'm going to choose a good looking one.  one might
argue "but ron, what about ms. X, who has all the qualities but looks?? aren't
you being mean, cruel, heartless??" and i reply "yes, there are millions
of ms. X's out there, but there are also thousands of ms. Y's out there,
so that's the group i'm targeting for."  other's say "i don't want a dumb
broad" or "he HAS to have a sense of humor" etc.  this is no different.
like i said, i'm just being honest.

and i met a wonderful girl a couple of years ago who meets all of these
qualities (and has many more terrific qualities), and things are hunky-dory.

summary: just about everyone admires intelligence, intelligence seems
like a good thing to have, rons has a tough set of rules for becoming
his mate, ron has met miss wonderful who passed all the rules and
is now living happily ever after.

tab witty saying comma new-line
	ron vaughn	...!ihnp4!ihdev!rjv

ps: one more things, her name must NOT rhyme with 'vaughn' -- nevonne,
yevonne, shawn....  luckily melinda's name is melinda.