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From: mat@mtx5b.UUCP (Mark Terribile)
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Subject: Re: What people look for in MOTAS
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Date: Fri, 24-May-85 20:29:38 EDT
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> Rather, my complaint is with a subtle shift in personal philosophy that has
> occurred in the past 10 years or so.  In the popular psychology, the idea
> that self-esteem is beneficial to one's well-being has led to a pervasive
> attitude of self-centeredness.  You see books with titles like "Looking Out
> for #1", "How to be Your Own Best Friend," etc.
...
> However, people when they are born are inherently self-centered, and it is
> only through their socialization that they come to view others as important
...
> I think the current attitude tends to ... to a certain extent, simply serves
> to promote self-centeredness.  I'm not sure that is good.

On those same ``self-improvement'' shelves is a somewhat older book ...  a
book called ``How To Win Friends and Influence People.''  It's a remarkable
exercise in well-spoken common sense, and good reading by any standard. If you
think you don't need it, you probably do.  It's one of those books that
everyone should read at least once.  It's quick enough to read that it won't
waste your time, and it's not boring.  For those that don't know, the author
is Dale Carnagie, and the book's main theme is that you have to give the
people you deal with the things they need most, and doing that requires
respect and consideration, properly followed.
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