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From: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Newsgroups: net.singles
Subject: Re: What people look for in MOTAS
Message-ID: <295@unc.UUCP>
Date: Sun, 26-May-85 13:51:52 EDT
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Posted: Sun May 26 13:51:52 1985
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Reply-To: fsks@unc.UUCP (Frank Silbermann)
Organization: CS Dept., U. of N. Carolina at Chapel Hill
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In article <ISM780.33100013> joan@ISM780.UUCP (Joan Alexander) writes:

>>> If a woman is attracted to your looks ... (blah blah blah)
>>>
>>> But if she is attracted to your wealth, power, fame ... (blah blah blah)

>    You don't *really* think that all women are looking for those
>  things, do you?  That would be a pretty insulting
>  generalization to make about the female population.

	Doesn't have to be ALL women.  Just enough so that a man
NOT having these attributes will have reduced chances to attract
the women of HIS choice.

>>> As a final note, always remember:  A good character,a loving personality
>>> and other INTERNAL attributes will earn you a long and happy relationship,
>>> provided you have the EXTERNAL attributes to attract the woman
>>> in the first place.

>     Some women get off on internals from the start and don't
>  need to be attracted by externals.  Admittedly, this doesn't
>  work well if you're trying to start a life-long relationship by
>  finding a nice stranger in a crowded bar (I *still* don't
>  understand how that works),

	Nor do internals help you much among strangers at a party,
or on vacation, or at a church social, or in class, etc.

>  but it's great for relationships
>  that evolve from friendships with people you already know.

	Yes, but how many friends does the average person have?
Relying on old friendships to grow into romantic attachments
reduces the selection pool too much.  And risks destroying
good friendships.
	What should I do if none of my old friends is suitable
to become a lover? Get new friends?  What if I'm already satified
with the platonic friends I have now?

>     I find that I feel much more physical attraction to the guys
>  who have what it takes on the inside than I do to the ones who
>  have what it takes on the outside.

Compare your physical attraction for these two groups:

	A)  Those who have what it takes ONLY on the inside.
	B)  Those who have what it takes on BOTH inside AND outside.

>     Conversely, I like for men to like me for what's on the
>  inside.  Whenever a guy sees me walking down the street or
>  sitting on a bus stop and immediately decides that he wants to
>  "get to know" me, I get *very* suspicious (and annoyed).

	Especially if he's not subtle about it (he must not have read
"How to Pick Up Girls" :-)	).

>  I enjoy good looks and status as much as anybody,
>  but if they're not there I don't miss them one bit.
   ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
>  And they're certainly not the things that I look for first.
>  And if that's ALL that's there, I don't give 'em a second thought.

That sounds like a good rule for choosing friends.
But when you say that you don't mind physical ugliness,
low social status, and poor economic prospects in the man (men?)
you sleep with, I don't believe you.

	Frank Silbermann